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Tuesday, May 14, 2013

52 Ways to Joy - Letting Go

Some of us think holding on makes us strong;
but sometimes it is letting go.
- Hermann Hesse

It's taken me 49 years to admit that no matter what I do or say I will never get along with a certain family member. We are just on opposing sides of EVERY discussion. Her values are completely different than mine, she raises her child different than I raise mine and our opinions just don't mesh in any way shape or form.

She's not wrong. And it's taken the last 10 years for me to accept that I'm not wrong either. We're simply different sides of the same coin.

This past weekend after a good cry and seeing the situation through the eyes of my growing children - I realize for all our sakes, it's time to let go.

Every week writing this post I force myself to dig into my soul, into what brings me inner peace and joy - and this week I realized sometimes it really does have to be about ME. Why do we always assume that doing the right thing means stuffing our own feelings under the mat? Year after year I sit across holiday tables frustrated and annoyed with the choice I made and then forced on my children even when they begged to stay home.

When do we get the right to let go and allow ourselves to be happy?

I'll be the first to admit that this weeks post is about purging for me. Letting go and moving on are probably the toughest choices people make in their lives. I'm programmed to give another chance, to turn another cheek, to try again to keep the peace in a small family.

What's the right road to take? Continue to meet the challenge or let go? Is it more important to nurture a family relationship and keep all opinions to myself? I wish I had the answer that would assure joy in my heart - but I don't. Both choices will bring sadness.

Time to make a choice - your inner joy or suck-it up at the holiday table and keep the antacid bottle in your purse?

I wish you joy as you travel this week!

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  1. Oh, yes. It's sad to let go, yet at the same time, it can be freeing. I hope you find peace during the coming year. Just knowing it's time to put your own family first is an awesome start. :)

  2. Everyone has to make their own individual choice at crossroads like these. I wish you much less heartache with whatever you decide. *hugs*


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