I can't speak for everywhere in this world, but I can tell you that in my little corner of the universe and the places I've traveled lately - people are rude.
And as if most of us don't have enough insecurities all on our own - those around us are often willing (and able!) to tell us all about our flaws. Isn't that nice of them?
I don't know about you, but I think a nice word might go a long way toward spreading a little bit of joy quicker than pointing out a flaw or a mistake.
It's way too easy to get caught up in the negative world of pointing out what's wrong - maybe if we all take a minute or two to find something nice to say instead, we can spread a little less hatred and a little more love.
My mother always said "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything." I think that's line one in the "mom manual."
But how often do I think about it and choose the other direction? Too often.
Or how often does the thought to say something nice cross my mind? Not often enough.
This weekend a friend and I discussed this very thing. Why do people feel that they can only elevate themselves by putting others down? Why as a society do we find it so much more difficult to point out an attribute? Does it diminish our own smile if we comment on the smile of another?
Over the past year I'm not ashamed to admit I've seen a few more gray streaks, okay, a LOT more gray streaks, running through my hair. I've also been "blessed" with an unruly head of hair that seems to have a mind of it's own on most days. To say it's hard to control would be an understatement. My hairdresser does wonders in suggesting hairstyles that control it and also go a long way toward keeping me in style. My hair lately has been a sensitive subject for me.
This weekend at a conference, I was sitting with a woman I admire (actually the woman giving the workshop) and the first thing she said to me? "You have great hair!"
One nice thought.
It doesn't even matter if she lied. She seemed sincere to me and in the second it took to say the words, my day was better and it cost her nothing. It didn't make her hair any less fabulous.
The power of a nice word.
Your mission this week is find the nice words to say before you point out the flaw. Make someone's day. Spread the joy one nice word at a time!
*52 Ways to Joy is a weekly post to celebrate the simple ways to bring joy into your life and those around you. It's about the small moments that makes memories and give us all a sense of contentment in the crazy world we live in. If you're joining me here for the first time, by clicking on the label "52WTJ" you can read the previous posts!
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